Three Words That Will Change Your Life
Updated: Oct 28, 2020
This article is a transcribed edited summary of a video Bob and Brad recorded in January of 2020. For the original video go to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rre_Na8xcoU&t=175s
Bob: This is kind of a fun topic today, three words that will change your life. I have found, Brad, that a personal model or a personal mission statement or personal motivational statements tend to be very helpful in my life. I found one that just really has worked with me, it really resonated well. Alright, so to me, the three words, in order to be effective, it has to have these three characteristics, in my opinion. One, it has to be short. If it’s short, it’s more powerful, you’re going to remember it. You’re going to say it every day. Number two, you have to have one that you can say daily. That it’s appropriate for you every day. Do you know what I mean? Let’s say, you were like, “I want to get a tan.” You know you’re probably only going to get a tan in the summer or not, it’s a bad example, but you put me on the spot here. There are some things that are good for right now, maybe you’re trying to save money for something. But it wouldn’t be good for you all year round.
Brad: I see what you’re saying right there.
Bob: Number three, it has to be personal. So, the one that I use, obviously, it’s not going to necessarily help you. So, what we’re going to do, we’re going to ask you to participate here. You can just write yours down on a piece of paper. We are going to go through ours. We have a whole sheet here; we’re going to list some of the ones that we picked. Brad and I did this separately. We both got the same sheet with a list and we had ones that are three words and we have some with four words too.
Brad: Oh, we did go to four?
Bob: We went and circled them so it’s going to be kind of interesting to see if Brad and I actually hit some of the same ones together or not. But we’ll talk about why we picked it. I’m just going to give an example, I’m going to give you Abraham Lincoln’s. Do you know what one of his favorite sayings was?
Bob: “This too shall pass.” You know what the beauty is of that statement? It works in good times and bad times. So, in bad times, or terrible times, like the Civil War, it was going to go away. Eventually things are going to get better.
Bob: But it also helps as a reminder not to get a big ego. So, if things are going really well, then this too shall pass.
Brad: Yeah, it keeps you modest.
Bob: So, I’m going to give you mine right now, Brad.
Brad: All right,
Bob: So, Dwayne Johnson, "the Rock," you know who he is right? He’s worth like 280 million. He’s a big body builder too. He approaches every day like he has nothing. I mean, like he’s just starting from the start. So, he works really hard –
Brad: Is he the bald guy?
Bob: The bald guy, yeah,
Brad: Oh yeah, yeah,
Bob: And what he liked to say and I’m paraphrasing how he put it, but he goes, “I try to bring it every day.” So that became my saying, “bring it every day.”
Bob: And it just really works. Like, I woke up this morning: okay, I have to bring it today. I have to give the people what they want. I have to do my best performance, and I have to work hard.
Brad: Kind of like, "bring it on."
Bob: “Bring it on!” Boy, that’s even pretty good too. So, Brad and I, we’re going to go through our list right now. Brad, why don’t you give one of your first ones that you found that you circled.
Brad: Well, I didn’t circle this one, but you know, I’ve been doing this for years “strong like bull.”
Bob: Oh, “strong like bull”, yep, here we go.
Brad: When you’re feeling a little down or a little weak or you need a little pep, “strong like bull.”
Bob: There you go. Now, remember folks, you start writing yours down too.
Bob: So, one of mine is, “always add value.” You know, to the people around me, I’m trying to add value to their lives.
Brad: That’s two words.
Bob: “Always add value.”
Brad: Oh! Always! Oh good. LOL
Bob: LOL, okay.
Brad: “Count your blessings.” My mother said that a million times when we were growing up.
Bob: Did she really?
Brad: Oh yeah.
Bob: I think that’s a great one, especially in the mornings to do gratitude.
Bob: Gratitude check. All right, another one that kind of fits right along with that is, “Be a giver.”
Brad: Sure. Oh, there’s one that’s not on here, but maybe I overlooked it. I’ll always
remember it because it was one of the last things my father said before he passed was –
Brad: “Follow your heart.”
Bob: Awwww, did he really?
Bob: Aww, that’s cool. You make me want to cry, Brad. That’s really cool.
Brad: Well, it’s true.
Bob: That’s cool. Well I’ll give you mine. I’ll give you one that my wife likes to use on me, she says, “shut up, Bob.”
Bob: So, I had to break it up a little bit, break up the tense moment in here. All right Brad, give another one here.
Brad: “Dream, believe, and achieve.”
Bob: Wasn’t that one of the motivational speakers that came up with that?
Brad: Well, I don’t know it just says it right here.
Bob: LOL, yeah.
Brad: But, you know, I’m sure it is one of those things that is exactly what they said or something similar.
Bob: This is one my wife and I have been saying a lot now. We say, “do not judge.” I mean, we just try not to judge people. Everybody’s got crap in their life and you don’t know what’s going on. Usually there’s a good explanation for why they’re doing what they’re doing.
Brad: It’s like the one “walking in someone else’s moccasins.”
Bob: Yeah, It’s funny that you’ve mentioned that, Brad. We had a little plastic saying on my desk, and that was it. “Don’t judge someone until you’ve walked a mile in their moccasins.”
Brad: Yeah, or you could say shoes. It’s longer than three words though.
Bob: Right, yep, that one is a little bit longer.
Brad: Oh, this is a classic, if you’re from Wisconsin.
Bob: What does it say?
Brad: “Enjoy your beer.”
Bob: Ah, it’s funny cause I just came to that one, I go, “I know Brad’s gonna say that one.” Enjoy a beer, that’s right. My next one is, “Genius is patience.” Patience is such an overlooked value these days. I mean, in work to get any success or anything like that, it takes patience and persistence. I mean it takes a long time. People just don’t have any patience anymore do they?
Brad: My wife does.
Bob: Does she?
Brad: Yeah, it’s absolutely incredible.
Bob: Oh yeah, you’ve mentioned that before.
Brad: Yeah, you know, the grandbaby will be crying and crying, and it’s like, “Oh my God, I gotta get out of here.” And she’s just very calm, but in other things too, with me, it’s incredible.
Brad: She’s just gifted with it.
Bob: Yeah, LOL.
Bob: You probably taught her patience, LOL.
Brad: Well, she really is gifted with patience.
Bob: You know, Socrates supposedly had a really naggy wife –
Brad: Oh really?
Bob: Yeah, yeah. And he said, he was glad for her because it taught him patience and composure.
Brad: Oh really?
Bob: Yep, he said he had to learn to accept this type of behavior. I mean, really, you can learn from anything.
Brad: You know, you have to. If he is going to have her in his life for the rest of his life you have to learn that.
Brad: You have to adjust.
Bob: Yeah, you have to adjust, that’s right. So, Brad you got another one?
Brad: Oh, “focus and win.”
Bob: Oh, I didn’t see that one, I would’ve picked that one too.
Brad: I’m pretty good at focusing. I can focus everything out and focus on what I want to get done that day.
Bob: And that is so important. I’ll tell you, that’s the second thing, with an ADD society, I think people have trouble focusing on what is important. You know, deep learning. I just read a book, and it's all about being able to focus for several hours at a time. Mike’s looking at the time, like, “How long is this gonna go on?” We only got a couple more.
Brad: “Get fresh air.”
Brad: It’s such a big difference in the morning, you wake up, you look groggy, you walk outside, say, get a breath of fresh air, the whole day is changed.
Bob: I agree, I got out this morning, and it’s like, I don’t care